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whiplash43 73 M
379 Articles
Score 7.2
WHO DO I DATE WHILE I AM IN TOWN? part 2   12/27/2016

My boss told my maid what to do and called him Bessie i had no idea that he had ever been here before and new the employees of the place. Bessie came back with the drinks on a tray in her mouth and as her hands were bound behind her back we had to take our drinks off the tray. She stood there waiting for orders and my boss said turn around and raise your ass Bessie. Bessie did as ordered and my ...


1 Comments, 24 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
whiplash43 73 M
379 Articles
Score 7.2
WHO DO I DATE WHILE I AM IN TOWN?   12/26/2016

I am headed for the big apple as it is called for the new year eve party that my company is throwing as we just made millions last year. I was one of the best performers and my boss is putting me up in the penthouse of the Trump towers. I am single and he said take a lady with you. I said well maybe and i left his office feeling real proud of myself. I contacted my lover who my boss does not know ...


0 Comments, 22 Views, 3 Votes ,1.96 Score
whiplash43 73 M
379 Articles
Score 7.2
DOGS AND MY NEIGHBOR   12/9/2015

Yesterday i was walking my dog out in my back yard when i was sure i felt eyes watching me. Today i am out there again and i know someone is watching me walk my dog but my back yard is fenced in with a 6 foot solid wood wall and i look and can not see any holes. I walk my dog and he shits and pisses and then i make him clean up the shit and put it in a bucket for later. He does not like the taste ...


4 Comments, 135 Views, 12 Votes ,4.04 Score
jetsly 71 M
1 Article
Score 0.0
How to use SAVE IMAGE AS   2/7/2015

When I am approached by a Mistress, the first thing that I do is run her profile photo by a number of on line registries. Take, for example, a domme who emailed me last night. Her ALT profile situates her in Redding, California. I used Save Image As to download her profile photo to the desktop, and then used both Tineye and Google images to do a search. There was a positive hit, for ...


2 Comments, 125 Views, 11 Votes ,6.35 Score
devoted_mike643 59 M
1 Article
Score 0.0
Safety in Meeting Women Domme on BDSM   11/30/2014

Attention Male Subs/Slaves - Yes you more than likely will be hit up by lots of Domme women as soon as you post a sub profile.

They will ask for Money to buy Toys, will refuse to meet in public until the time of the 1st session. Will want your to transfer Money via Western Union, or Gift Cards. I offered one to meet in RL 1st, offered to bring CASH to meet and order the toys they ...


5 Comments, 172 Views, 19 Votes ,6.03 Score
tnt88jean 53 F
2 Articles
Score 0.0
Safe word   3/27/2013

How is a safe word of any good if you are bound and gaged ?


13 Comments, 192 Views, 22 Votes ,4.57 Score
sleepnbullets 53 M
4 Articles
Score 0.0
What should I do?   12/19/2012

So I met a woman, who said she would be my Mistress. There where certain rules to follow. I would have to be obedient, honest and do anything she asked me to do. Some red flags popped up at this point, which I mistakenly took for magical excitement that would follow. She insisted that before we went any further that I delete my Account on Alt. and cease any correspondence with any other females. ...


9 Comments, 332 Views, 4 Votes ,3.25 Score
TheSmartDom 50 M
9 Articles
Score 0.0
Safety in Meeting Men for BDSM   5/18/2012

Comments on Safety in BDSM MJ Reldan TheSmartDom

Our society began with women as chattel and slaves. It hasn’t set a good scene for safe, sane and consentual play. Some men feel that acceptance of their dominance is permission to hold ALL power and worse, license to wield it recklessly. The world of Dominance gives shelter to people of poor character and sick mind, with little to ...


5 Comments, 111 Views, 12 Votes ,6.86 Score
g8rluvr 35 M
6 Articles
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always always   12/2/2011

meet in public first, be an adult about it


5 Comments, 93 Views, 11 Votes ,5.41 Score
heythereimjon 28 M
8 Articles
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Nice to hear some tips on how to correctly go about meeting others.   8/17/2011

What i hear from a lot of people is meet in a public place, webcam a lot, and well have a safe feeling about it idk lol


0 Comments, 34 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
Lcd18 63 M
10 Articles
Score 2.2
When is the right time to meet.   12/4/2010

Since i joined this site, i've exchanged a few emails, but wondered at some point meeting would be brought up, where should the first meeting take place and should a trusted friend either witness it or be near by?.of course it should be in a public place.then it fells like stepping out of my box or comfort zone, anyone else felt this way?.


5 Comments, 171 Views, 11 Votes ,2.61 Score
First Meet   6/24/2010

When I first came on line I had such incredible teachers in BDSM. All were practicing for many years and taught me the ins and outs of a first meet. My present Master I met on line and asked him to become my protector... little did we know at that time this would turn into a great relationship and friendship. After 8 months of chatting online we decided to meet. Two of my freinds ...


1 Comments, 246 Views, 12 Votes ,3.51 Score
hushboy 52 M
4 Articles
Score 0.0
Verification   3/14/2010

I see that some members are using what looks like to me as a paid verification site. Is this legit? If it is all the better but giving up more personal info to strangers and paying them to boot sounds risky to me. There are some old fashioned way of checking.

My other concern would be members who have to sole purpose of getting you to pay this company. Are they one the payroll getting a ...


5 Comments, 91 Views, 3 Votes ,0.49 Score
stay at home   1/20/2010

stay at home and nothing can go wrong


3 Comments, 77 Views, 4 Votes ,0.14 Score
where does everyone meet   1/20/2010

i only meet people in their homes. never in a hotel


4 Comments, 115 Views, 1 Votes ,2.40 Score
69yolanda69 36 F
13 Articles
Score 0.0
THE DAY AFTER MY AND BEATING   1/14/2010

When Rubio got home last night, I was lying on the floor in front of the fireplace in a fetal position crying. It had been 3 hours since I finished writing about my horrible experience and posting it. Rubio kneeled down beside me and said “you wrote it, didn’t you”. She knew. She pulled it up on the lap top and read it...she said nothing..she just lifted up my head ...


3 Comments, 248 Views, 10 Votes ,3.58 Score
69yolanda69 36 F
13 Articles
Score 0.0
THE DAY AFTER MY AND BEATING   1/14/2010

When Rubio got home last night, I was lying on the floor in front of the fireplace in a fetal position crying. It had been 3 hours since I finished writing about my horrible experience and posting it. Rubio kneeled down beside me and said “you wrote it, didn’t you”. She knew. She pulled it up on the lap top and read it...she said nothing..she just lifted up my head ...


1 Comments, 126 Views, 4 Votes ,1.69 Score
69yolanda69 36 F
13 Articles
Score 0.0
MY AND BEATING   1/14/2010

Over the past several days I have had the privilege of communicating with TamuraW and Molly 09. I read their blogs (I suggest you also read them) and talked to them and came away with an explosion within me. Tamura, Molly..I love you. Thank you for giving me the courage to do this, you danced with me and let me go.

An event happened to me 9 years ago that changed my ...



9 Comments, 507 Views, 8 Votes ,1.86 Score
masterdeee 63 C
33 Articles
Score 0.0
slaves that wanted pain and bondage   4/26/2009

as a grand master some had exp some newbies. i have a full dugan also 50 years exp.you find a man newbie say he a dom becouse he a man. it takes years. when i teach this kind of slave i make sure i know her limites. then when in bondage i always keep all keys in so she can get out. the newbie doms and women mistress. say they have 15 years exp. when you hook up they can not tell the difference ...


0 Comments, 104 Views, 3 Votes ,4.41 Score
subsbane 59 M
12 Articles
Score 1.1
Take some precautions when meeting   4/13/2009

I quote an article from the NZ herald newspaper which should be self explanatory. This is an example of an internet arranged meeting which could have ended tragically.

'Horror house' tourist warns of danger A German tourist whose internet relationship turned out to be anything but romantic has warned of the dangers of travelling across the world to meet a stranger after spending a week ...


1 Comments, 141 Views, 4 Votes ,4.80 Score
best_dom_cairo 40 M
5 Articles
Score 0.0
profiles   4/4/2009

I would like to point out to people that if they do not fill out their profiles with any details, then they are possibly setting themselves up to be over looked. However I do wonder what the point of writing this in the magazine as most of the readers are people who have put alot of time and effort into revealing important details about themselv


2 Comments, 36 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
igirisujin_h 35 M
1 Article
Score 0.0
Growing number of "Mistress" scams   1/3/2009

Over the last few months I've noticed a growing number of scam attempts. In the past these have mostly been from brand new free accounts, but I've seen two in the last month from gold paid accounts.

The general process is :

* A user labelled as a Dominant views your profile, and send aA mail or wink * The scammer tries to establish contact through means other than ALT as quickly ...


7 Comments, 173 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
the importance of Safety   11/20/2008

I am very fortunate. I was groomed in the newbie room concerning safety. Over and over post reminded me about safe calls , SSC and ensuring that I have a way of contacting a freind when I go on a meet. I did listen to this. I did travel 2000 in the middle of nowhere in the united States to meet my DOm. A couple who I know brought me to his place which was very runned down. I knew that ...


4 Comments, 146 Views, 6 Votes ,4.79 Score
Acid Tests for True Dominants   6/25/2008

Commonly nicknamed "The Acid Test for Doms", this treatise was written by one DrSpankenstein, and is passed around the S&M community on the Internet, often without attribution to the author.

Often, when a new sub asks online "How do I protect myself when seeking a Dom?", they are referred to The Acid Test. We love it and felt it really needed to be included, and DrSpankenstein was cool ...


11 Comments, 299 Views, 25 Votes ,6.78 Score
hawk6200 53 C
5 Articles
Score 0.0
Being careful   5/12/2008

What was going on she asked him he told shout up whore and slapped her to the floor They beat her and tied her down she used her safe word several times and they did stop She was beaten over 10 +hrs when the got done with her she was left crying on the bed then the horror started they cained her ass so hard and so much they drew blood She was fist fucked so hard that they ripped something ...


2 Comments, 489 Views, 10 Votes ,2.99 Score
Birdfinder 63 M
45 Articles
Score 0.0
Safety is a Rwo Way Street   4/1/2008

Safety on dates is really a two way street. I am not a small guy and in very hard condition. While not a giant I know how to care for myself and I have the alpha attitude that keeps most respectful.

I am selective about who I meet and who I date. I don't send money to on line contacts with tear jerk tales. Have had those from east and west in USA as well as Russia, Nigeria and ...


1 Comments, 117 Views, 8 Votes ,5.33 Score
Wonderful_Mind 45 M
61 Articles
Score 0.0
Safe Words/Safe Guards   3/16/2008

Many of My articles find their genesis in conversations and posts that I participate in. This article is an example of one such occassion. Special thanks to dixie for the inspiration.

To begin, let's define what a "safeword" is. It is a word chosen by a submissive and known by the Dominant (or bottom and Top) that will halt a scene whenever a submissive feels that their physical, ...


0 Comments, 64 Views, 7 Votes ,5.08 Score
EmperorDick 43 M
7 Articles
Score 0.0
Tops Disease is the corruption of power   1/21/2008

Corruption is to degrade with unsound principles, to alter from the original or correct form or version, to become vicious, tainted, rotten. This often occurs with a parallel degradation of moral values, the impairment of personal integrity, the loss of virtue and moral principles.

When a Dominant becomes corrupt their judgment is impaired. They tend to believe they are elevated in ...


2 Comments, 69 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
v10ivan469 63 M
3 Articles
Score 0.0
Dating Safely???   9/9/2007

Why is it that many of the guys writing articles on this and other sites seem to think that unprotected anoymous sex with mutiple users is normal practice?

It is attitudes like this that will doom us all in the long run. If you really want a gangbang, set it up in a safe environment.

With the tools on the internet today you can do much better than random sex at some secluded ...


0 Comments, 65 Views, 10 Votes ,3.19 Score
toomuchtv007 63 M
1 Article
Score 0.0
Advice to a new submissive   7/29/2007

This is from an interview with a submissive woman on my blog, based around her views and experience.

Qn: What advice would you give a new sub about how to find a suitable Dom?

Ans: Talk a lot to other people. Listen to what they say. Read - there is loads on the Internet. Only believe 1/5 of what a prospective Dom says in his profile if you use ALT. Ask the same questions in ...


7 Comments, 224 Views, 6 Votes ,4.50 Score
do not answer ad of LOSTATSEA 02 criminal stalker   7/2/2007

Warning to all trannies, shemales and women on alt.com website. PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!! Do not answer to the ad of lostatsea02 damster28, He may give u the name Johhnny and a number which starts with 203848 His real name is Damien Teddington. Look him up on line called ct. corrections under inmate number 299551 He is a violent offender and may have AIDS he was in prison and ...


4 Comments, 497 Views, 15 Votes ,4.51 Score
zennflower 54 F
10 Articles
Score 0.0
How Do I Find a Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress?   6/27/2007

Before you even start looking for a Dominant/Domme/Master/Mistress. Know yourself, what your desires, your wants, you needs, your limits and what you are looking for in a Dominant/Domme/Master/Mistress. It's a good idea to actually write these lists out, that way while you are talking with them you have the answers right there and don't have to rely on memory. ...


6 Comments, 231 Views, 21 Votes ,7.46 Score
hotjamiestarr2 47 T
1 Article
Score 0.0
How many things did i do wrong?   5/11/2007

i heard the door open behind me. i stayed where i was laying face down a top a comforter spread on my livingroom floor. "Are you alone?" A deep voice, rich-toned but i could hear the abruptness of nervousness / of hidden violence in his speech. "Yes, sir", i replied. i knew what i had agreed to over the phone so i just layed there as i heard the door close. i could feel the ...


0 Comments, 301 Views, 13 Votes ,2.47 Score
DommejuanNLacey 53 C-2F
23 Articles
Score 0.0
Cyber Reality   4/18/2007

Most people are very content with cyber play and the advantages it offers, one of them being freedom from real life restrictions like pain. This freedom makes online environments ideal spaces for experimentation, both personal and sexual. Needless to say, the online world is bursting with exploration of all kinds, much of it kinky.

There are plenty of online BDSM ...



4 Comments, 99 Views, 10 Votes ,4.98 Score
tryforfree 50 M
32 Articles
Score 0.0
what is safe   2/28/2007

is it safe to meet someone?
is it safer to meet up with someone and be in a neutral setting?
who is safer, the person you meet or the person your meeting?
what kind of person are you most afraid of?
In this instance (actually moving forward) are you the type that fears what will be done to you is to harm you or to please you?
what if you fall in love? what then? ...


2 Comments, 201 Views, 6 Votes
hisfetish 63 F
8 Articles
Score 0.0
Safe Calls   1/27/2007

Everyone talks about having a safe call but do you know what information to give your safe call person? Do you know how often you should call them? Do you know how to pick someone as your safe call?
You should have a safe call set up any time you're meeting someone for (at least) the first time. The information you give could save your life. Any Dominant/Domina or submissive who ...


6 Comments, 220 Views, 17 Votes ,6.52 Score
For Those Whom Have Ever Been Stalked   1/9/2007

The following is some information I recently stumbled upon and thought in light of some of the antics here on line, may be worth sharing with others.
It is part of an article that deals with the seriousness of stalking and for those that know someone that has been tormented in such a manner, perhaps painting a better picture of the hell they often endure. Followed by some tips to ...


4 Comments, 237 Views, 12 Votes ,6.16 Score
dos and donts   1/8/2007

I had a girl that i met on line talked to a couple times one friday night we were talking and she asked if i wouldn't mind going down on her i was 38 and she was 26 and nice looking and i love eat pussy it was 1am we met 1/2 way between where we lived in an almost empty parking lot and she followed me to my place i should have never done this and she shouldn't have done this for her she ...


1 Comments, 553 Views, 18 Votes ,2.17 Score
beware   1/3/2007

i have met a lot of people on alt. i have played with very few. People say i am stuck up, but i say i use caution. i have been burnt, i have been used, and i have been left in positions that were hard to get out of. Even in the BDSM lifestyle there are a lot of weirdos out there. i tend to be too carrying at times, and like to help the world. in the last few weeks i have learned my lesson. ...


4 Comments, 453 Views, 13 Votes ,6.50 Score
dvoted2master 55 C
5 Articles
Score 0.0
Looking Out For Number One   12/13/2006

I've been around the BDSM community for a number of years and have had my fair share of meeting new people for potential play/relationship consideration. Over time I’ve put together my own personal rituals for meeting new people, most of whom I’ve met via the Internet. As this topic comes up often on various discussion groups I belong to I decided to write an essay detailing my thoughts ...


7 Comments, 503 Views, 10 Votes ,5.18 Score
jamiexxxr 69 T
17 Articles
Score 0.0
what you need too do and what actually happens   11/22/2006

When you meet someone online chat with them for awhile, this could be days, weeks or months before a meet.In your chatting try to get Info like name a picture an address, type of car, etc.When you set a meeting make it at a very public place like a niebhorhood cafe or any VERY public use area.Beings you know what they are driving and your watching for they arrival, write down the Licence ...


0 Comments, 331 Views, 7 Votes ,2.79 Score
ffdarkwolfe 41 M
1 Article
Score 0.0
what kind of tips should guys follow?   11/2/2006

normally, the tips are targeted to woman, should men follow similar things, something different, or just go with the flow?


1 Comments, 186 Views, 4 Votes ,2.08 Score
ziggyandraven2 59 C
15 Articles
Score 0.0
Our First Meeting   10/8/2006

You all will love this funny story. I met my husband here on ALT. We chatted here and online for about 6 months before we ever met. Finally the time approached. We were both nervous about meeting and we both took precautions. I had him give me his phone number and address to my grandparents. I then called them everyday from my cell to check in. I also told my best girlfriend ...


1 Comments, 490 Views, 11 Votes ,5.97 Score
sexymale1974 42 M
2 Articles
Score 0.0
Beware of the clingy woman........   10/2/2006

Hello everyone. What's up? I love ladies in every way, but ther is one that can be a nightmare. She's the recently seperated female that know's only how to be in a relationship. They can be the best and the crazyest bitch in the world. So my advice is to just leave everything sexual.....Good luck...


2 Comments, 160 Views, 7 Votes ,1.00 Score
sex_demon96 35 M
5 Articles
Score 0.0
Protection against crazy ex-gf's   9/27/2006

It seems like any jealously crazy ex-girlfriend can pick up the phone at any time and accuse a man of domestic assault, what have you, and send them to jail whenever they feel like it. As a man we seem to have no rights or protection, it's always our word against theirs and with these no-tolerance laws the man always get f**ked over.
What suggestions or ideas do people have to ...


1 Comments, 241 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
sex_demon96 35 M
5 Articles
Score 0.0
Protection against crazy ex-gf's   9/27/2006

It seems like any jealously crazy ex-girlfriend can pick up the phone at any time and accuse a man of domestic assault, what have you, and send them to jail whenever they feel like it. As a man we seem to have no rights or protection, it's always our word against theirs and with these no-tolerance laws the man always get f**ked over.
What suggestions or ideas do people have to ...


0 Comments, 27 Views, 0 Votes
starmakerxxx 49 M
1 Article
Score 0.0
The Best of Times   8/23/2006

What a great age we live in today. Like a lot of people I thought I was born at the wrong time. I see it more on the alt site, but I've heard it from several groups. You know, " I should have been born at this time or that age. But when it comes to B&D/S&M this is the best of times.
This is the most natural and fun form of "perversion". Like anything else people can take it too ...


0 Comments, 77 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
planoman2 67 M
50 Articles
Score 0.0
Sir Thomas Trains Bob and Clair - Part II   8/23/2006

Sir Thomas had Clair and Bob put their hands behind their backs. He then tied their wrists together behind their backs. He opened the door to the hotel room and told them to follow him. Both Bob and Clair being totally nude were reluctant to go out of the hotel room. They hesitated just a second before both of them received blows on their buttocks with a command, “Move!”
...


0 Comments, 451 Views, 14 Votes ,4.42 Score
alanhuang_962 40 M
7 Articles
Score 0.0
safe is important   8/4/2006

I think sex safe is importamg.so we must have some sufe guard


0 Comments, 84 Views, 1 Votes ,1.10 Score
IronDuke2006 51 M
2 Articles
Score 0.0
Being safe...   7/11/2006

Don't give them your address & landline phone number.
Do meet first in a pub;ic place. Do arrange a 'safe call' with a friend for a certain time.
Don't always listen to gossip. Some is malicious, more inaccurate.
Do get his full real name, dob & address & phone number.
Trust your own instincts.
Remember we are all human...


5 Comments, 192 Views, 16 Votes ,5.63 Score
THE HITCHHIKER   6/30/2006

I needed to get away from this place. Things have been going wrong for weeks now and I just needed to leave. So here I was standing at the side of the road hitching a ride. The big rig slowly too a stop, and I run to catch up. I opened the door, to see a white man behind the wheel. Although I could see that he was much older then myself, he was in amazing shape. He pulled back into ...


2 Comments, 565 Views, 12 Votes ,3.15 Score
Larvaefam 48 F
7 Articles
Score 0.0
Mother fucker or Dom?   6/26/2006

How to define them? Very simple, look to their attitude;



Mother fuckers are unable to grow their subs. They want to get them already educated.
Real domes are always keen to teach, train and grow. Mother fuckers usually are worry about the level of experience of their subs.
Mother fuckers ...


4 Comments, 683 Views, 20 Votes ,3.64 Score
meetings   6/23/2006

how many of you arranged to meet someone and found that they have not turned up


1 Comments, 341 Views, 5 Votes ,2.16 Score
Larvaefam 48 F
7 Articles
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FAT BOYS SLIM is not the question when you know the art of trust   6/15/2006

Fat boys or slim?

The domes learn submissive partners for their best. Unfortunately, at alt.com many submissive boys ask domes to guess do they fat boys or slim, ha ha That’s for example, or other secrets, Often they ask – Prove me that you are the real dome. Some want to see a kind of magic abilities that the domes must have. The domes don’t like to be ...


1 Comments, 103 Views, 5 Votes ,2.49 Score
SexKitten41958 58 F
1 Article
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Could YOU be the next Date victim?   6/9/2006

In our world of instant gratification it is sad, but true that more and more men turn to the use of Date drugs to get the attention and instant gratification of the girl of their choice, and YOU may not be capable to give your consent.
You are out there looking for a sexual encounter of your CHOOSING. The magic words are your CHOICE and with your CONSENT. ...


0 Comments, 313 Views, 8 Votes ,5.80 Score
spiceysweetlady 42 F
2 Articles
Score 0.0
A 3-some night to remember   6/5/2006

One night I went out to a local club with my best friend and my boyfriend at the time. She was looking to hookup with someone for the night and eventually found someone to bring back home. Naturally we were all drinking pretty heavily and by the time we got back to the house, my boyfriend and I headed upstairs while my girlfriend and her new boy toy took of to another private room of ...


0 Comments, 245 Views, 13 Votes ,5.32 Score
GoldMan234 44 M
6 Articles
Score 0.0
What steps do you take to be safe?   5/22/2006

Ok I am to the point in this I want to meet the other person. My question is how do I go to be tottaly safe in the meeting?


7 Comments, 277 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
Larvaefam 48 F
7 Articles
Score 0.0
Ohnun wrote thousand letters to the submissive and masochistic   4/30/2006

Part two of IngYang Pussy.
Soon the buns in form of Her Pussy was named as Ya. The buns became very popular in the region and the town was renamed as Ya (after the very popular juice Ya). IngYang when it renamed itself inYa has got improved his self-esteem too much and too far. In the result all citizens of Ya became very fat from eating the buns Ya. ...



1 Comments, 75 Views, 4 Votes ,3.63 Score
meetings   4/30/2006

I always find it very hard on my first meeting with someone. We both know why we are meeting and what for but I find it hard when they just want to get on with it with out knowinganything about me.


1 Comments, 132 Views, 1 Votes ,5.00 Score
Larvaefam 48 F
7 Articles
Score 0.0
About Whites   4/24/2006

In his first work day on Saturday, American Whites woke up at 6 a.m. . The Sun was already frying the gray day with all its possibilities. The coldest shower was used to cry: “Have a nice day Honey”. After he has inserted his head into the black mask of a cat’s face, and hands into vinyl gloves, the schoolgirl’s skirt was put on his hips; the white ...


0 Comments, 406 Views, 3 Votes ,0.49 Score
Larvaefam 48 F
7 Articles
Score 0.0
IngYang (how to date safety and earn from that)   4/21/2006

Part One. IngYang is the little town located in the Western Siberia, Russia. The town IngYang was always known as the town of the nicest bread. The IngYang’s bread was famous because of its fragrance. Ohnun was the woman and the Chief of the baking department at the IngYang bread manufacture. All her men of IngYang have never even thought about ...


0 Comments, 60 Views, 2 Votes ,2.42 Score
dynamitesneonaty 33 M
11 Articles
Score 0.0
How can I be nice but choosey?   4/13/2006

I'm really picky with girls, as I'm sure most are. I'm sorry to say it, but the vast majority of people I've met from here are fat and unattractive, despite me trying to qualify them a lot before meeting. Anyone have good ideas here?


0 Comments, 54 Views, 2 Votes
How do you know dogging is safe?   3/31/2006

Do you go to established sites? Only use contacts you know? Whats the best way to be safe? Ever been caught by the police?


1 Comments, 212 Views, 0 Votes
DominantSiren35 46 F
10 Articles
Score 0.0
let someone know...   3/19/2006

This article is especially important for the BDSM crowd. When you meet someone from online some tips to keep you safe...
1. Get the persons first and last name and their phone number.
2. Leave the number someplace in your house. write on a piece of paper you are meeting the person full name at this time in this place and leave the number on it. In the event the person ...


5 Comments, 226 Views, 20 Votes ,6.44 Score
Lookover   3/18/2006

One can never be too safe when meeting people from this site. I like to chat for an extended period of time and when it comes time to swap pics then I include one with a beard or in my leathers from being on the road. I promise after a shave and the jacket and chaps come off I look totally different. I may also set up a drink or coffee date and include my clothing description. I dress ...


1 Comments, 136 Views, 8 Votes ,4.64 Score
lynched4u 58 M
83 Articles
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Erotic Nights   3/17/2006

Trina was awakened by the ear piercing screams reverberating off her bedroom wall. As she fumbled to switch on her night light she was startled by the gruff voice from her neighbors apartment that constantly barked orders to the whimpering woman. Kneel bitch he shouted, as the thud of a whip resounded off the unmistakable sound of her bare skin. Trina had only met her neighbor once but ...


0 Comments, 146 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
jackudamiona 51 C
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Hotel Room Info   3/17/2006

A large number of people use hotel rooms when meeting new people for play, but do you know how important it is to keep the hotel room cards you get for your doors. These cards have all the information on them that you gave the clerk, including credit card number and expiration date. It has your home address, Phone number, liscence number, and everything that someone could use to steal ...


3 Comments, 348 Views, 14 Votes ,4.26 Score
MissLeeLee 68 T
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Fucking, Fisting & Foriegn Objects   3/1/2006

I'm not living with my wife. We seperated she claimed she needed a real man to take care of her needs. Uncle quickly took me in, he gets gets all the housework done for free and he gets all the blowjobs he wants also for free. His wife won't put "that nasty thing" in her mouth. And I really love the taste and texture of a real mans jism mmm! Uncle doesn't mind slapping me around ...


0 Comments, 603 Views, 8 Votes ,3.48 Score
KneelB4BBWdomme 45 C-2F
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meeting Jenny   2/20/2006

When I first got My first computer and AOL the whole thing was fresh and fun. I was a young bi wife of a husband who traveled a LOT for work but so far had only had been not acting on My bi nature since before the wedding. <br> Then I got the IM from "Jenny" Who told Me she was a submissive blonde 48DD, blue eyes, and tan" LOL yeah this was a number of years back internet was ...


1 Comments, 369 Views, 7 Votes ,3.30 Score
10orbetter 51 M
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You Never Know   2/20/2006

Have you ever met someone and over the phone they sound NORMAL, and everything seems to be going well??? Then you meet and find out this person is a REAL NUT CASE??


3 Comments, 202 Views, 6 Votes ,1.37 Score
wyckedredhead 47 F
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Safety 101: Is He For Real?   2/10/2006

Top ten signs that the "Dom" who just messaged you is not for real: <br> 1. He initiates your first email or IM conversation with a command. This is called the "On Your Knees Now" routine, and it's the hallmark of a really clueless HNG (horny net geek) or "chudwah" (clueless hetero dom-wannabe). <br> 2. He gets belligerent, rude or angry if you ask a question or ...


5 Comments, 454 Views, 27 Votes ,6.08 Score
Meeting IN safe Place   2/9/2006

I meet this girl on the internet... ICQ great program that it is. She lives in the same town as me and well after only one week of chatting on the net we decided we should meet and go clubbing. Awesome I thought.. we didn't swap photos just described one another. I went out the following Saturday night all sexied up ready to dance all night long, I was looking for a tall ...


0 Comments, 165 Views, 9 Votes ,2.36 Score
missy1958 58 T
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Training Terilee, Part 1   2/7/2006

I'm the kind of fat little sissy you made fun of in the schoolyard or if you passed me in the streets. My mommy taught me to dress inappropriately. Unfortunately what was to her the height of fashion was sissified to little boys. With rosey red lips and chubby cheeks I was poured each school day into a white linen camp shirt with big sleeves and a wide pink bow tie, matching mini-pants, ...


0 Comments, 300 Views, 9 Votes ,1.07 Score
wyckedredhead 47 F
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Safety 101: What Is A Safecall?   2/6/2006

In my previous article, I mentioned safecalls. A safecall is basically a safety line to the outside world: Someone out there knows where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing, in order to help minimize your risk. Here are some tips for arranging a safecall for your first date: <br> <br> 1. Get all the information that you can from the person you're meeting. ...


2 Comments, 319 Views, 27 Votes ,7.13 Score
Dont leave them for they will follow the stager.   2/5/2006

Don’t leave your man to go to anywhere lady’s and gentlemen for there are some thieves out there. My x-best friend , and her man went to the movies one evening not so long ago. She need to go to the restroom before the movie begain, so she told him ill be right back. When she returned from the restroom, the pop corn, coke, and her man were gone.She began to walk out toward the hall ...


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Never be alone   2/5/2006

Don’t leave your man to go to anywhere lady’s and gentlemen for there are some thieves out there. My x-best friend , and her man went to the movies one evening not so long ago. She need to go to the restroom before the movie begain, so she told him ill be right back. When she returned from the restroom, the pop corn, coke, and her man were gone.She began to walk out toward the hall ...


0 Comments, 167 Views, 3 Votes ,2.45 Score
wyckedredhead 47 F
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Safety 101: The First Date   2/3/2006

So you've been chatting to that hot new Dom/me or potential sub online or on the phone for some time, and now it's finally time to meet face to face! Sure, you have butterflies in your stomach; but chances are, so does the other person. Here's some advice to help minimize your risk, and keep those butterflies calm. <br> <br> 1. Keep it short. Half an hour to an hour ...


4 Comments, 991 Views, 58 Votes ,7.23 Score
masterzad 33 M
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Partner   2/1/2006

Allows spend the night together before marrage. That the only way u know if you can stand the person in the morning


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masterzad 33 M
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Drink   2/1/2006

Keep your eyes on your drink at all times


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wildfire330 38 M
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MEETING FOR THE FIRST TIME.   1/24/2006

WHEN MEETING SOMEONE FOR THE FIRST TIME IT IS ALWAY BETTER TO MEET AT A PUBLIC PLACE. TALK TO THER OTHER PERSON AND WHEN YOU FEEL IT IS SAFE YOU CAN THEN MOVE TO A MORE PRIVATE LOCATION, IF THAT IS WHAT YOU WANT.


0 Comments, 71 Views, 2 Votes ,3.12 Score
MRKYMAIDSLUTSE 38 M
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Mutual consent in BD & SM of Ds with Master/Mistress and submissives...   1/24/2006

This is a very Good Date Safety aspect of having good fun... Thats worth concideration in BD~SM of Ds thats prevents getting Hurt... <br> CHARLIE SAID:- Always tell someone before going somewhere... <br> Take a mobile/pager & send a message too a safety person that your fine... <br> The purpose of this instrument is to: State the full mutual consent of the ...


0 Comments, 93 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
velvetgirl69 50 F
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Characteristics of a Psychopath   1/23/2006

"Symptoms and Signals: <br> A psychopath will use people for excitement, to build their self-esteem and they invariably value people in terms of their material value (money, property, comfort, etc...) To date there is a checklist of behavior and symptoms that will tell you with certainty is a person is a psychopath. These are warning signs. <br> Characteristics of a ...


19 Comments, 1372 Views, 53 Votes ,5.46 Score
bemybitches 39 C
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pepper spray   1/17/2006

always the safest option!!


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bdsmnn 46 M
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the   1/8/2006

Christmas!


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EDiva 45 F
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a little stress relief   1/2/2006

"I need to relieve some stress, " was all he had said before he raised her nightgown up, bent her over the couch and rammed his cock into her pussy. At the first thrust of his cock into her pussy, she immediately became wet. <br> "Shitty day?" she said breathlessly as she looked over her shoulder at him. <br> "Just shut the fuck up, " he said as he began to slam in ...


0 Comments, 235 Views, 10 Votes ,3.98 Score
Phoenix_flame 52 F
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Discipline   12/18/2005

The hot lick of sun as it poured over my exposed flesh warred with the chill air pumping from the car’s air conditioner. My brain was conflicted as well because the signal it was getting from my blindfolded eyes was that of complete darkness. My ears too were submitting almost negative input from my surroundings. All that i could hear with the industrial strength ear plugs inserted in ...


0 Comments, 188 Views, 9 Votes ,2.57 Score
masterdeee 63 C
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WHAT YOU DO NOT KNOW CAN HURT YOU.   12/4/2005

WHEN YOU READ A PROFILE. MAKE COPIES.AS YOU LOOK AT THEM COME IN.WATCH FOR A DIFFERENCE. THEIR ARE DOMES THAT SAY THEY HAVE 15 YEARS OF EXPERANCE OR MISTRESS. BUT WHEN YOU HOOK UP EATHER KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HAD CUFFS FROM A DILDO. IT BIG BAM THANK YOU MAM. ASK FOR HER OR HIS NUMBER.BUT ALWAYS USE A CALL CARD. BUT A PROFILE CAN BE DECIVEING. I HAD A E MALE FROM A SUB.2 YEARS ...


1 Comments, 194 Views, 10 Votes ,3.39 Score
velvetgirl69 50 F
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You must read this if you are going to meet him.   11/29/2005

There are sociopaths out there and sometimes it's hard to tell if the person you are going to meet is one. <br> "They lack empathy and a sense of responsibility, and they manipulate, lie and con others with no regard for anyone's feelings." <br> Think you can spot a sociopath? Think again. <br> (He is here a among you LEXX10INCH goes by Mark sometimes when he ...


5 Comments, 439 Views, 10 Votes ,4.98 Score
190976 40 M
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keep in touch robe3231000y   11/29/2005

hi i am robe. home alone , living in damansara, loking partner sex or every thing, ,


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New to this and getting ready for first meeting.   11/7/2005

I am 22 years old and getting ready for my first meeting with a man. We have chatted on line for a while and he wants me to meet him a hotel this week. I dont think that he is a bad guy but still im very scared. Does anyone have any suggestions on if this is normal? Should I meet him at a hotel? Please help I need advice, support anything that could help me feel more comfortable. ...


5 Comments, 397 Views, 6 Votes ,2.23 Score
ADEVILAM 66 M
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Meeting for the first time.   10/29/2005

I appreciate why there are sensible guidelines reccommended for the first meeting, but I wonder sometimes whether the true psychopath would or would not be able to circumvent these. Then one has all the practical difficulties of arranging a neutral meeting place and then recognising each other. There is perhaps something to be said for meeting at the dom's place - this is where webcams are ...


0 Comments, 176 Views, 4 Votes ,2.47 Score
Giving out your email addy   8/30/2005

Hi, <br> I'm pretty new to this and I had a question about giving out your email address. A standard member contacted me and while I'm interested in contacting her the site clearly warns against giving out your email address. I'm wondering if this is for my safety or a marketing ploy for alt.com as it would behoove them to discourage us from communicating outside of alt.com. ...


7 Comments, 395 Views, 18 Votes ,3.26 Score
DarkDesigns 43 M
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How to spot a wannabe or poseur Dom   8/17/2005

Here are some common traits of wannabe or poseur Doms. <br> - Puts his pleasure before the sub's needs - Demands to be called 'sir' or 'Master' from the very first second you talk to them - Doesn't listen to the sub's needs (or is simply uninterested in what they are) - Ignores limits places by the sub - Puts tremendous importance on cock worship - Starts calling the sub ...


16 Comments, 1060 Views, 69 Votes ,7.78 Score
lynched4u 58 M
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Taking a risk for r/t activities   8/12/2005

With the ability to determine the origins of e-mails, aren't on-line members in the lifestyle at a lower risk for harm than their counterparts, or is the endless ambivalance to meet justified by a noteworthy experience that has tainted your trust. How many use a safe call, or bring along someone else when meeting a potential suitor.


4 Comments, 238 Views, 5 Votes ,3.47 Score
Chainmaster100 51 M
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First meeting   7/22/2005

I believe a first meeting should always take place in a busy location were numbers can help make anyone feel safe.


1 Comments, 204 Views, 8 Votes ,5.10 Score
dynamitesneon 34 M
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Is the world that scary?   7/9/2005

How many people are afraid of those they talk to on here? I know the world is dangers and blah blah. Trust me, I'm aware; I've lived just outside Detroit my whole life. That doesn't make me afraid of meeting people. How much distance would you keep and for how long?


3 Comments, 170 Views, 2 Votes ,5.20 Score
email7734 35 M
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when you meet with a dom   6/21/2005

what measures do you take to meet with a female dominant?


1 Comments, 374 Views, 6 Votes ,0.80 Score
looking4fun550 38 M
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Dom Gone Too Far???????   6/17/2005

My Female DOM lives out or state. It is a ways to travel. I don’t mind to travel but one way is four and a half hours. That is one of the reasons I am looking for a new one. Well two sometimes three times a month I go to her. As soon as I get in she doesn’t allow me to have any thing puts me in a bath makes me shave my legs and takes my clothes. She locks all of the doors inside the ...


5 Comments, 309 Views, 0 Votes
karielynn 46 F
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man wanting to take me to   5/23/2005

ok, everyone, here it is: I am a 35 yr old single mom. Always been in vanilla relationships and long to explore and learn more. Never been fucked by a stranger. This guy on sex search approached me. In his ad he mentioned wanting a travel companion for a trip to mexico. well--- here is his latest letter to me: Message: Morning Karie, Thanks for getting back to me, sending ...


15 Comments, 995 Views, 17 Votes ,3.55 Score
linear_emotions 34 M
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if you had to pick..   5/19/2005

what would be the ONE most important thing about dating. <br> <br> this is an open poll, in a way. <br> just looking to see what people think.


2 Comments, 140 Views, 6 Votes ,2.51 Score
Sydney male subs please read   5/16/2005

Beware of dreemmistress, Bondi, Sydney <br> I recently contacted the above named mistress through the alt.com site. I gave her my telephone number when she requested communication that way. She contacted me through her 'private number' mobile and we spoke 2 or 3 times on the phone over a period of about 2 weeks. She controlled these conversations and got me to send her an e-mail ...


0 Comments, 376 Views, 8 Votes ,3.94 Score
linear_emotions 34 M
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so I've heard from someone...   5/11/2005

and I'm getting really awkward feelings. is it normal to get cold feet about meeting up with someone? <br> I mean, its great that we can connect and be honest about what we want and are looking for, but actually meeting up is getting me a bit nervous. and by a bit, I mean a lot. <br> is this normal, or should I be thinking about calling things off? <br> I'm not ...


5 Comments, 256 Views, 3 Votes ,3.92 Score
dresseuse 58 F
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Checking the Bag   5/6/2005

Even after having met a new LOVER or prospective MASTER, I find myself checking at least initially his bag or luggage containing the Toys of his Trade. I had a few nasty surprises a few years back that were sprung onto me during several extended play session, and which could have been avoided. Its simply a bit awkward to be bound and secured and then being prodded with a nasty and ...


40 Comments, 3613 Views, 110 Votes ,5.29 Score
fl_bj6969 57 M
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Giving Out Personal Information   4/13/2005

I went through the usual routine for online "dating". We sent e-mails, a lot of them, then we decided to meet at a public place, so that if things didn't work out, I could just walk away. <br> During the conversation, everything was going well until the couple asked for my phone number, my first and last name, address, etc. I told them I didn't feel comfortable telling them all ...


1 Comments, 423 Views, 12 Votes ,3.51 Score
MarkTivyn 31 M
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Stranded   4/3/2005

This happened to a very good friend of mine, I will call her Beth. Beth was an attractive 42yo sub who met this guy online. They talked for about 6 months, exchanged photos. Beth was from Olympia WA and this person she was meeting was from Las Vegas Nevada. He arranged to sponsor her trip over there and would meet at one of the casinos. The biggest mistake she made was allowing him to "buy ...


4 Comments, 545 Views, 15 Votes ,5.89 Score
rollingblock 58 M
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Lesson Learned the Hard way   3/31/2005

THIS IS ALL TRUE I met this subie on line and we chatted and found mutual intrest. After a week of chatting she said lets meet. Well ok I figured this would be a short and interesting date and we would chat some more. Well after two or so hours she said lets go to her place and play. I never did this befor but heard others did and figured should be safe(BAD MOVE#1). She asked if I would ...


4 Comments, 728 Views, 15 Votes ,5.27 Score
Hard Limits   3/16/2005

One of the things I have found interesting is that when most list hard limits they fail to list the most important one of all. Of course, I am sure that many feel that everyone knows that it is a limit but as was drilled into me since I was a kid: When we assume..we make an ass out of u and me. The limit I am speaking of is snuff. I find it almost amusing that so many take the time to ...


6 Comments, 540 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
MEDICALSCAT 50 M
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What do you think   3/6/2005

I have just been contacted by someone on this site who viewed my profile which is fairly specific. The persons profile states that he is a 66yo white dom although there is no photo. after exchanging a few emails I gave him my phone number. The upshot of this phone call is that he is 60yo lives just over the road from the train station I have to get to and has a middle eastern accent and ...


4 Comments, 491 Views, 4 Votes ,1.30 Score
sabrebound 47 M
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Guidelines from what I have learned   2/27/2005

Play Safe!! <br> Before playing with anyone you have to ensure that there is a mutual trust. As in any game, it takes two to play. Both of you need to participate in the making of the rules of the game, and be 100% committed to not breaking these rules. It is always best to put these rules down in writing, as in a binding contract (excuse the pun). This protects both parties, in ...


3 Comments, 976 Views, 34 Votes ,5.85 Score
sec7238 49 M
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Always Think About Safety   2/11/2005

Here are my guidelines for initial meetings. <br> 1. Meet at a public place (coffee shoppe, resturant, ...). Try to avoid bars and any place that might add additional stress to the situation. <br> 2. If you have never been there before, make a trial run. Know what to expect when you walk in. <br> 3. Bring a friend if you are not completely comfortable. ...


2 Comments, 479 Views, 21 Votes ,4.98 Score
trannyannie2 58 T
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A CAUTIONARY "TAIL"   1/30/2005

 Dolly Pants, Diary of a Sissy Slave <br> At the beginning it was a subtle phenomena as simple as mom wanting their first child to be a girl and dad wanting a little boy. The father, R.C. we’ll call him worked long hard hours as a coalminer. Mom, we’ll call her Debra had one older sister and three younger ones. They all thought the baby was a ...


3 Comments, 433 Views, 11 Votes
Confirm ID   1/22/2005

Why is it that the majority of people on here don't have a "Confirm ID"? Get an ID, people. It instills a greater form of trust on both sides. I, personally, don't take any replies I get seriously unless they have a "Confirm ID". Are these people hiding something, or are they just playing with the serious ones on here? Master Gene


6 Comments, 320 Views, 17 Votes ,1.29 Score
Man_Bear25 37 M
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there isn't such a thing..   1/12/2005

There should be one more book about dating, and it should be call "Dating Safety For Dummies". if there is one already then good luck with it because in my eyes there isnt such a thing. I know what you are saying BS BS BS well let me try to prove it to you, Ask yourself one thing, How many times have you studied and rsearch a guy or girl and became friends first before you went out with ...


2 Comments, 212 Views, 9 Votes ,3.00 Score
Those First Meetings   1/5/2005

We preach safety over and over..get criticized for pushing common sense on people who just don't get the importance of it. <br> Basics to remember: <br> Get information before meeting....phone numbers at home and work. An address, both home and work. Get a picture..an updated one.(put these things in an accessible file for someone you trust to access) Have safety ...


9 Comments, 668 Views, 38 Votes ,6.64 Score
SweetDenial 60 F
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Assault   11/27/2004

Mistresses, Doms, submissives all have to worry about the safty issue. I met a so called switch in 2004. He was charming in the beginning but as the relationship progressed flags started to rise. He claimed he was divorced but would rant and rave about his X wife, he was extremely anal about everything. Everything had to lined up. Even his female attire had to be just so. After about ...


14 Comments, 1998 Views, 145 Votes ,4.76 Score
S_she_S 47 F
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Red Flags for a First Meet   11/6/2004

The name has been taken out to protect the person I am talking about but here is the Scenario: <br> Met here, e-mail sent to me, replied to and so on and so forth, agreed to chat on another service, for realtime conversation instant messaging. Now this person didn't like the fact that I don't write novels as e-mails, which is fine, but then, once in Imz...Hmmmm We chatted a few ...


8 Comments, 856 Views, 83 Votes ,7.38 Score
Man_Bear25 37 M
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whats really safe?   10/30/2004

When we talk about dating we think of the most beautiful things, the perfect man or woman and the best sex of all time. Then we find out the ones we date are crazy idiots who want to exploid our bodies and mind then trash them like paper plates, not a good thing specially with all those std's out there. The truth is there isnt a safe way to date, be honest, straight forward and be careful ...


1 Comments, 122 Views, 19 Votes ,2.86 Score
Tyler-Rose 48 F
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How To Be An Effective SafeCaller   10/23/2004

Dangerous people, dangerous situations. How do we ensure our safety when we meet for the first time? How do we know the person won’t become the abuser down the line? <br> These are the most important issues for anyone meeting anyone, anywhere. <br> When a woman goes to a BDSM society meeting, she is meeting people in a public place. Going out for coffee or a bite to ...


12 Comments, 577 Views, 54 Votes ,9.13 Score
MasteringMore 52 M
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Safety and BDSM   10/13/2004

SAFETY AND BDSM <br> You are pretty sure you have met a great person, you have chatted with them on the internet, talked to them on the phone, you really have clicked with them and they have piqued your interest to the point where you would like to meet them face to face. Now how can you put your fears and anxieties aside to safely meet with them for the first time? <br> ...


2 Comments, 284 Views, 25 Votes ,7.11 Score
Don't do what I did   10/9/2004

I went to meet Wymondhamguy, andthought Ok we'll be Ok in private, although he was older looking than his photo, he was OK. <br> When we got private we did some light things, a bit of this and that, but I had said 'condoms' I had said no intercouse. ( unless condoms) <br> But what did he do, knelt in front of me and F***king slipped his dick inside me the devious ...


10 Comments, 531 Views, 28 Votes ,4.47 Score
DarkDesigns 43 M
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Things you should know before you meet a Dominant   10/5/2004

Here are some questons you should ask before meeting any Dominant. 1) Are you married or in a current relationship? 2) How did your last BDSM relationship end? 3) Can you give me references? 4) What clubs/events/munches/etc have/do you go to? 5) What training have you had? 6) What limits or restrictions would you place on me? 7) What are your house rules for submissives/slaves? What ...


10 Comments, 519 Views, 36 Votes ,7.21 Score
Age verification in cyberspace   9/22/2004

I'd like to get some feedback on this "age verification" bullshit I see slapped on so many personals sites. Just how is it that by using a credit card on the Internet gives anyone verification on anything? Having been burned twice on the 'net for giving out my credit card numbers and/or other personal data, I neither have a credit card any longer and certainly see no sense in "trusting" ...


2 Comments, 92 Views, 7 Votes ,2.02 Score
brand new subs   9/19/2004

Some of you 18-21 year old females who are brand new to this, the best practice before you jump at the first appealing add is do you reserch. find out about the person as much as you can, be honest set the ground rules from the get go so you have no bad surprises later.


0 Comments, 137 Views, 15 Votes ,4.20 Score
YourKnight424 56 M
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So, How well do you know them ?   9/19/2004

There's only one thing you can be certain of, & that's what your looking for when you meet someone new. <br> Regardless of how many times you've messaged, email, texted and spoken on the phone, That first meeting is when you'll get to be able to see their face as well hear what they say. (Even using a webcam doesn't give you a true idea of what they are like). <br> ...


0 Comments, 156 Views, 17 Votes ,6.10 Score
leggyredhead 58 F
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Safety Issues   9/18/2004

I recently responded to something written by a submi ssive and posted under questions here. This submissive wrote in to say that based on online and phone interaction she met a Dominant from New York who put her in the hospital for eight days. She made reference to scening with him while he was heavily under the influence of alcohol. I have worked with victims of physical and sexual assault ...


0 Comments, 254 Views, 31 Votes ,7.36 Score
quiterelaxed 57 M
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Re: Where to meet   8/30/2004

I always try to go for something informal, a coffee house or lunch somewhere, all very public, and make it easy for both in that irrespective of what they believe, no playing, no matter what they feel. <br> it makes for a very enjoyable lunch and if it doesnt work out then both parties can simply go home.


0 Comments, 104 Views, 20 Votes ,7.85 Score
Iceburgh69 37 M
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Re Coffee dates are the best   8/30/2004

It's always best to meet somewhere public before going into the bedroom. You always need to be careful, since you never know who you'll end up with. Also, I'd bring along a friend to help out in case something goes and takes a sharp left turn. Again, you never know who's what, even in a small town.


1 Comments, 57 Views, 13 Votes ,4.99 Score
BoyNDrag 55 T
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The Do's And Don'ts of Meeting Someone   8/27/2004

My kids were getting older and starting Kindergarten, and though they still weren’t aware of my crossdressing I pretty much kept it to dressing late at night after they’d gone to bed. I had the whole basement to myself, and most of the time would take my toys with me and play by myself. Sex with my wife was nearly non-existent. I don’t know what the problem was between us, and ...


2 Comments, 511 Views, 47 Votes ,6.90 Score
Phone Numbers   8/5/2004

Another concern with safety is your phone number. <br> If a prospective (Dom/me/sub) gives you their phone number, and you do not have a cell phone, call them from a phone booth some distance (a few blocks) from your home. If they ask for your home phone, just out and out tell them you are not comfortable giving them such personal information until you have met them in person ...


0 Comments, 86 Views, 62 Votes ,8.88 Score
PASilverTop2 67 M
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Pre-Scene Negotiations   7/30/2004

I’ve been giving this list to my fem sub acquaintances and, over the past few weeks the response I got the most was “Whoa, thanks for telling me that! I would never have thought of it!” So, I thought I’d post it to the general public. Some of these are thing that you probably wouldn’t think of, but that doesn’t make them any less important. I’m going to talk about ...


2 Comments, 372 Views, 68 Votes ,9.28 Score
Gwyd 47 M
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Where to meet. Response   7/20/2004

When I meet a prospective partner for the first time, it is always in a public place. Coffee houses are nice because the athmosphere is relatively quiet and relaxed, you can sit close and talk, get to know a person, yet it is public enough for you to call for help if they turn out to be a little too agressive. It's also pretty cheap (The cost of a couple of cups of coffee) and if it is ...


2 Comments, 70 Views, 40 Votes ,9.23 Score
Using common sense   7/18/2004

Here is a simple yet effective safety idea for future 'dates' and especially bondage submissives. If and when you finally agree to meet make a note of where you are meeting (make it a public place so you have witnesses to your meeting) get as many of your partners's details and proof of identity and post them to yourself (at home or suitable pickup) this would deter most of the unsavoury ...


0 Comments, 106 Views, 21 Votes ,6.47 Score
How far ?   7/14/2004

How much control do you give to your dominant masters ? Do you let them chain you up and throw away the key or do you have rules laid out ? Is there often a 'safty word' or is part of the expirience accepting both the good and the bad ? <br> It is a dangerous world out there and i'm just curious how far you let your masters take you ? <br> Just light spanking or ...


0 Comments, 73 Views, 22 Votes ,2.89 Score
Wolfman228 48 M
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Mrs. Hannibal Lecter???   7/5/2004

I've recently had an email encounter with someone from this website who is a Dom. SHE had invited me to her network. I'm a little frightened of this because when I checked a profile under her AOL account it was all in some type of code and I've seen the word "Cannibal" in it. Just wanted to give a heads up to the fellas and ladies here. You can't be too shore of who you will meet out ...


3 Comments, 287 Views, 36 Votes ,7.21 Score
Good Tip!   7/1/2004

Its best to meet at your own house where you are familiar with the surroundings. Cut some holes in a garbage bag and wear it for a dress. Doesn't matter if you're male or female. That will let your date know that you mean business right off the bat! When they come to the door tell them to come in, but hide from them so they have to find you. Be careful not to move too much or they'll ...


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Where to meet.   6/19/2004

Does anyone have a suggestion for meeting someone for the first time? What is the best way? and at what point (if ever) do you actually have someone come to your house or go to their's? How are most people meeting and what have been the best results for you?


0 Comments, 61 Views, 36 Votes ,6.69 Score
no sound.................chapter one   6/18/2004

Chapter One No Sound <br> The cold metal of the folding chair was a shock to her naked flesh as she tentatively lowered herself onto the seat. She guided her left hand along the edge of the chair, her right holding dangling a stiff leather collar. She reviewed His instructions. Had she done everything? Had she finished the tasks? The room was clean. She had cleaned it ...


2 Comments, 102 Views, 27 Votes ,7.03 Score
plugallofme 39 F
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NYCBlackpower   5/29/2004

nycblackpower: what do you mean what? kocopebbles: go yankees- whre did that come from? nycblackpower: oh just messing with you...give me a break...don't be serious man kocopebbles: I was just checking to see if I missed something nycblackpower: I can't get expect you to get everything...you're not here kocopebbles: ok nycblackpower: how was your shower? kocopebbles: perfect ...


0 Comments, 56 Views, 30 Votes ,5.79 Score
SpankableCyn 53 C
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Re Meeting at Home   5/26/2004

If you finally have gotten to know each other well, why not play for the first time at play party that has Dungeon Monitor right there to look out for you? Not private enough? How about a Hotel room after you have set up safe calls. Do not isolate yourself when playing with some that can not confirm his or her reputation in the BDSM community. How many time have we heard someone say ...


0 Comments, 54 Views, 33 Votes ,7.09 Score
spankboy75 41 M
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How to make safety an issue   5/20/2004

Does anyone have a suggestion on how let people know your big on safety practices. I really want people to know that I'm willing to take whatever steps necessary to meet comfortably with them. It's hard to bring up the issue without sounding desperate or pushy.


0 Comments, 60 Views, 24 Votes ,7.79 Score
Not sure what I should do...   5/18/2004

I put up my profile on here on a whim and wasn't expecting anyone to actually respond to it... Then, about a month ago, a domme winked at me and curiously I e-mailed her... She really wants to meet me and I've been afraid to since I don't have anyone who could meet her or check her out ahead of time for me... I'm a full-time college student and know that I won't be able to fully commit ...


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LifesAdventure 31 M
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RE. Dating Safety   4/5/2004

OMG what the hell is wrong with this guy. That sounds like he died and went straight to Alt heaven lol. But I suppose if that isnt for you, people should be careful and thoroughly find out what their getting themselves into.


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Tens unit safety   4/2/2004

Number one it is never a good idea to use a physical device such as a tens unit. It is used for physical therapy. That device could cause your muscles to go into spasms. It could also make blood vessels contract and not in a good way. It can cause real bad pain if put into the hands of the wrong person. I have a tens unit for a shoulder injury and it has instructions on the correct way of ...


0 Comments, 54 Views, 45 Votes ,7.90 Score
lauranthalasia 51 F
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Re: Re: Age does not constitute wisdom   2/24/2004

i had not wanted to formally expose him until i was certain that she was ok. i know now that she is ok, although much time has indeed passed since my first post on this. see, things went from bad to worse, and he ended up assulting her a couple of days ago. she has numerous bruises, abrasions and the like...but she is alive and safe. now the real task is beginning for her; to rebuild her ...


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TallNKinkyGuy 39 M
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When Meeting Someone, It is Always Good to Take Precautions   1/28/2004

I think many of us- both men and women- are intimidated by the idea that we might somehow compromise our safety and security if we "date strangers from the net". <br> Many years ago, if you were to tell a friend that you had met someone on the net, their first reaction might be something along the lines of "So you're really THAT desperate?". But as more and more of us have ...


0 Comments, 216 Views, 118 Votes ,9.35 Score
SweetThing34 47 F
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It could have happened to me   1/19/2004

There is a book entitled "Anyone You Want Me To Be" I suggest...eveyrone buy it Dom and sub alike. The reasons I will go into now. <br> When I was a brand new submissive, I made about every error one could make. I met someone claiming to be a Dom on AOL...He lied about being married and having kids the usual things I had found out leter. He wanted me to come out to Nebraska ...


3 Comments, 240 Views, 79 Votes ,9.59 Score
Dates   12/27/2003

Any suggestions from anyone who I can check out the guys I am going on "blind dates" with - it makes me nervous meeting people in public from the internet espeically if I am spending private time with them. Any advice?


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TENS UNIT DANGER & SAFETY   12/18/2003

Maybe someone with a more scientific knowledge can verify this, but I wanted to share this with you in case its true. When using a TENS unit, if you insert it into a vagina, since the vagina has LESS nerves, you cannot feel exactly how strong the electricity is invading your insides. If it sending out too strong of electricity, wouldn't this be causing actual physical harm to your ...


1 Comments, 108 Views, 48 Votes ,5.72 Score
meeting at home   12/13/2003

do you think it's safe for you to bring back dom to ur house without meeting them beforehand?


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lauranthalasia 51 F
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Age does not constitute wisdom   12/1/2003

In my years of being a submissive, i have noticed that many subs will do anything, and yes, i mean anything to win the love (or so they think) of a Dominate. they seem to place everything on the Dom's experience, as They post to the sub, without taking into consideration any motives the particular Dom might have. for instance, my friend has been seeing this so-called Dom for only a couple ...


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Re:Re: Tens Unit   11/23/2003

It really amazes me that people would fool around with electricity when they do not even have a clue about Ohm's Law, to say the least. In the first place, water(moisture) does not amplify current(you can't create what is not already there). It is true, as a rule, that conductivy goes up with certain liquids(not all) but that is a measure of the conductance of the liquid not the ...


0 Comments, 158 Views, 45 Votes ,8.41 Score
sluttyalana 46 M
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Let someone know   11/4/2003

Please always let someone know what you are up to when you meet someone new. I didn't follow this simple rule and was used in ways I never meant to happen. I was held against my will for several days, lost my job and with it most of my things. Always have someone you must check in with at designated times to ensure your safety.


0 Comments, 161 Views, 72 Votes ,8.13 Score
forcedcouple 51 M
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NEVER AGAIN!!!!   9/13/2003

I met two lesbians, and was looking forward to a wonderful evening with them, using me as a slave, mild pain, it was my first time, we met at a bar, they were beautiful, more then expected, very nice. I was taken to there van, where I was blindfolded, and bound, then the long drive, seemed like hours, finally we stopped, I could hear them talking, this was there first sub man, and how much ...


0 Comments, 523 Views, 187 Votes ,8.22 Score
Taken   9/7/2003

I guess I should've seen the signs in the beginning. To this day I blame myself. If I had thought with the head on my shoulders instead of the one below the belt the entire ordeal could've been avoided. I'll never forget how I looked in the mirror. For the first time of the day I wasn't blindfolded, in fact I think it was on purpose so that I could examine myself in the glass pain a ...


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Meeting a Potetial Dom   8/29/2003

I have heard alot lately in the chatrooms about the dangers to the new subs meeting their doms and not knowing the rules. It's a shame that all Doms don't point out the rules, let alone follow them, themselves. But here we are, and we all know that there are preditators out there, so let's not kid ourselves that we might not become a victim instead of starting a mutually rewarding ...


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veiledpassion 33 F
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From Online to Real Time   1/21/2003

<br> I have been in this lifestyle for only a year myself , yet in this year i have seen much , and seen many of my submissive sisters hurt , both physically , mentally , and emotionally , by Wanna-Be Doms and horney men who thought it would be easyer to get laid by pretending to be into bdsm then going to a bar . While by all means the ones who do this , should be held ...


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veiledpassion 33 F
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From Online to Real Time   1/21/2003

<br> I have been in this lifestyle for only a year myself , yet in this year i have seen much , and seen many of my submissive sisters hurt , both physically , mentally , and emotionally , by Wanna-Be Doms and horney men who thought it would be easyer to get laid by pretending to be into bdsm then going to a bar . While by all means the ones who do this , should be held ...


0 Comments, 72 Views, 109 Votes ,8.94 Score
Dating Disaster.... or was it...   12/20/2002

He seemed sooooo nice, just the kind of Dom I had been hoping to meet. Tall, well spoken, commanding presence. Perhaps almost tooo good to be true. The first time we arranged to meet I was careful, I chose a public park in the day time, we walked and talked about ourselves and then sat down under the shade of a lovely ash tree. There were people walking and kids playing so I knew I was ...


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Re:Tens Unit   12/4/2002

Well , lets see here . <br> Little lesson in what conducts eletricity ... *causes it to pass from one object to another , or um , shocks you , i guess would apply to this case . <br> Water . Moisture . Electricity , travels and is AMPLIFIED by moisture . So say you have it set at the lowest lvl , you insert it into a very wet female , and bam , turn it on ... well ...


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suzykitten 51 F
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my enslavement   12/1/2002

I was coming from the store after picking up a couple packs of smokes. As I came up the street I saw a bunch of cop cars on the street in front of the crib. I stood at the corner watching hoping they weren;t at my place. Soon I saw two cops dragging my boyfreind out and throwing him into a car. I knew then going home wasn';t a good choice. I walked the streets for a bit finally going ...


1 Comments, 251 Views, 308 Votes ,8.25 Score
alaskaannie69 62 F
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Can a Tens pad be used inside the Vagina?   4/17/2002

Does anybody out there know if you can have a tens unit on a cock and then insert it? I just got turned on the electro-torture. I really loved the intence climax that I got. I want to take this further and before I do I would like to hear from anybody out there that "REALLY" knows from experience or is a Doctor. Thanx in advance


1 Comments, 131 Views, 104 Votes ,1.79 Score