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jthp6969 39 M
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Its a bit hard   9/23/2023

But Its hard for me to tell someone of the same sex I am not interested because regardless I am a caring person so I want to make sure I do not offend anyone. What's the best advice for this?


2 Comments, 87 Views, 67 Votes ,0.30 Score
UnsuspectingD 46 M
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Let's just say what we are thinking   11/20/2022

I know guilty of this as well times. But there is nothing more frustrating than wasting my time on someone who is stringing me along.


4 Comments, 110 Views, 74 Votes ,0.55 Score
react2alt 53 C
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Just points to reply   11/20/2022

Just points to reply


3 Comments, 107 Views, 86 Votes ,0.80 Score
jtpbigck69 39 M
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Saying no in a nice way   11/20/2022

how do you usually say no to someone that you are not interested in?


6 Comments, 134 Views, 92 Votes
UnsuspectingD 46 M
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Let's just say what we are thinking   7/5/2022

I know guilty of this as well times. But there is nothing more frustrating than wasting my time on someone who is stringing me along.


2 Comments, 112 Views, 93 Votes ,0.55 Score
midmodude4 54 M
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To be, or not to be...   1/26/2022

I got a question. Tis it nobler or more appropriate to tell someone their is no interest, perhaps with explanation or to end in perpetual silence?


1 Comments, 39 Views, 28 Votes ,0.57 Score
JTPBIGCK3 39 M
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Anyone have any secrets they want to share?   1/26/2022

Anything taboo stories to get the convo going?


1 Comments, 52 Views, 47 Votes
MissLoveParty1 42 F
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Not Interested   6/11/2020

What do you think is the best way to tell someone you're not interested? Especially if it's someone that you probably will see somewhere and don't want an awkward situation?


15 Comments, 127 Views, 17 Votes ,4.40 Score
blueeyedgirl70 53 F
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Already had a problem   10/30/2019

I've been a member here less than 24hrs and I've been extremely polite to each and every response I've recieved yet one member asked for my YM ID after our first email. I politely told him that I don't give out my YM ID's (I leave them off my profile for a reason) as I've had problems on another site in the past. He immediately emailed me back and rudely informed me I must be of lower ...


11 Comments, 371 Views, 34 Votes ,6.92 Score
blkgrp2007 48 G
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Gay/Bi Men   8/5/2019

At what point to you get rude with the pushy gay men? i usually just give a simple No Thanks.. But some just can't take NO... I'm sure the women deal with this all the time. Thanks


1 Comments, 58 Views, 18 Votes ,2.72 Score
Niceblueeeyes36 47 M
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Polite rejection   8/5/2019

Have never suffered with too much ill feeling over being rejected, although do how the arrogance of how some deliver it. Currently if I want to tell someone they are not my type, I have found that it softens it or puts it into perspective to say that they are simply not my 'flavour'. Wondering if that sounds crass? but it seems to make sense to me. Sound like Volvo's some like Porches, some like ...


4 Comments, 58 Views, 13 Votes ,4.65 Score
soulstrands 66 F
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The Sun, the Moon and the Stars, and I said no thank you   11/10/2018

I was recently approached by a Dominant that offered me potentially everything. Several homes in amazing locations, a connection to nature and life around them, boats, cars, lake, city, prestige, a private dungeon, freedom to spend, shop, primp, live what could be seen as the life of Riley.

His letters to me were so far and away from the norm I receive, they caught my attention and ...


11 Comments, 452 Views, 29 Votes ,6.15 Score
MissTriciaTPE 69 F
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CUT AND PASTE FOR SCAMMERS   6/12/2018

EVERY DAY on ALT.COM several million scammers are seeking YOU out.! <br><br> Does YOUR profile make you seem NEEDY ? <br><br> <br><br> As a PRO DOM who YES. makes a financial living from this lifestyle. let me explain what I mean .. <br><br> LOOK AT YOUR PROFILE , And I mean REALLY LOOK at it .. ...


1 Comments, 25 Views, 6 Votes ,3.37 Score
The_Beast_Master 57 M
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Saying no is better than bullshitting   1/30/2017

I have been approached by many women who have initially provided me with bullshit photos so what do you say to them? No thanks


2 Comments, 109 Views, 10 Votes ,4.18 Score
salesman58 65 M
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seems easy but...   11/1/2016

Wish I had the chance to say no to some of the ladies here, but more often is men looking for another man that do not take NO very easily. Why don't some read profiles?


2 Comments, 38 Views, 12 Votes ,4.39 Score
nowhome34952 64 M
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Nothing wrong   10/15/2016

To me there is nothing wrong with saying no thanks. I have been in this lifestyle for many years 30 and counting. I have seen, heard and done a lot and trust me not everything is for everyone. Just find someone who fits you wants and desires and then push the envelope a little but don't go out of the comfort zone. This lifestyle only works well with trust, openness, honesty and desire.


3 Comments, 41 Views, 9 Votes ,4.28 Score
yourboackboorFB 71 M
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I wish people would say no thanks!!!   10/18/2015

People don't just ignore e-mails!!!! Write back and so no thanks!!! Way to many e-mails go unanswered!!!! It is the polite thing to do!!!!


8 Comments, 115 Views, 13 Votes ,4.99 Score
Slavejasmine09 39 M
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be open and up front   6/21/2015

be open and up front and talk about what you both want and be willing to try new things


1 Comments, 28 Views, 6 Votes ,3.65 Score
norann 52 M
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random hits to your profile   1/16/2012

Anybody else wonder what contributes to some of randome visits to your profile? Of course it is flaterring but curious as well when somoeone for very far away drops by for a look.


5 Comments, 176 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
bound_sweetness 65 F
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I try to be respectful   1/6/2012

Even when saying, no thank you, since respect is important. One can not just say 'fuck off' .. well wait, one can but it's entirely rude. Instead i like to point out why i consider the whole effort a complete wash. It's actually a fairly good way of pointing things out if mistakes have been made. Things that people should consider.... i think it helps them in their searches. Sometimes ...


2 Comments, 239 Views, 19 Votes ,5.10 Score
GoddessKell 55 F
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Dont Take it personal....   9/14/2011

Dont take it personal when you meet someone and the "chemistry" just isnt there. The thing you have to remember is that 99% of the people you meet you wont get along with EVEN if they are physically attractive. The key to finding the right person is knowing that YOU want and need from a potential Dom/me sub/slave and then DONT SETTLE for anything less. When I am meeting someone whom I ...


2 Comments, 143 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
Lady_DvL 67 F
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there was a time   1/4/2011

There was a time I use to answer a polite "no thanks" to all the mails I received (here or elswhere) beeing a woman and a Dominant one generate a lot of asking mails. Use to think I needed a special subcretary to answer all of them but never found the one *S* <br> This took me a enormous amount of time, maybe because I was more than polite and gave a little answer to every mail ...


7 Comments, 393 Views, 24 Votes ,3.93 Score
tazdawg46 54 M
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no thanks   5/10/2010

I think it's just being rude not to reply to someone that's taken the time to respond to your profile. ON the other hand there is too many random hits and fake, (maybe people paid by this site) emails that it starts to piss you off. If it's a genuine email I reply each time. There are many ways to say no thanks but the best is thanks for your interest but no thankyou.


4 Comments, 72 Views, 5 Votes ,4.12 Score
woodboy1981 43 M
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why?   4/19/2010

If i told somebody no thanks already and keep asking me for sex? what can i do? that peson dont leave me alone. and im sick of it.i dont like to use violence or be rude with people but at this point i feel like if im gonna exploid.


2 Comments, 93 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
Daimon72 51 F
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Master's Offer   11/9/2009

I consider myself submissive. I received an offer from a potential master about a week ago.

Here is my problem, the way he approached the subject made me want to defy. I have never had that happen to me on a first meeting. He chose to tell me that he is very prominate in this community and that his wife knows nothing of his desires. Those two facts right there made my stomach turn. It ...


7 Comments, 383 Views, 21 Votes ,5.97 Score
29m4perversegal 49 M
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Why people donth bother to reply   8/5/2009

I have often been thinking why people are so lazy when it comes to be polite on the net. Very often when i send someone an email, i dont even get a reply. How hard is it to simply say "no thanks, i am not interested" I know that some get a lots of emails. And of course the women in here maybe get tons of mails, but thats not an excuse to not reply, i mean if they get too many mails than ...


6 Comments, 251 Views, 15 Votes ,5.58 Score
pinkie_blonde 64 F
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Cock Shots   3/12/2009

i generally turn down requests for contact from Men who send me nude pictures, especially cock shots. But i got to thinking, why would a Man send one of an unattrative cock. Don't get me wrong; most cocks are more than average in size, but that alone doesn't make them attractive. So i thought i'd hand out my POV on the matter.
1) If Your cock is a ...



15 Comments, 534 Views, 39 Votes ,5.76 Score
UnCutRebel 52 M
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Kinda hard to say NO   11/29/2008

Kinda ODD but I feel we all have had this moment in our "dateing" lives.......hence ya like certain peeps but not sexually....But they want you...Odd cause when you crave this you get it but not from the ones you want....lol...Ironic cums to mind...lol...So do you engage in sex just cause the other wants too, or you say no and become the bad guy? I rather say NO and be ohnest.....Sum say ...


1 Comments, 145 Views, 8 Votes ,2.09 Score
WildThang1275 69 F
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Thank You, I am not interested.   10/5/2008

When someone contacts me and their profile does not interest me, I click the quick response and am done. The problem comes when they return email with nasty comments. Why does NO THANKS have to become a slap to your sexuality, sensuality, intelligence, body shape, lifestyle and more?

Maybe the person receiving the NO THANKS should step back for a moment and think that this person has ...


3 Comments, 119 Views, 9 Votes ,5.14 Score
Bolt7 47 M
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winks and flirting   8/29/2008

Having someone view your profile might suggest they liked you picture or your one-line come on but it doesn't necessarily mean they're interested. After reading about you, there might not be a match. Still it shows up on your "interested" list.

But winks should be a better indicator right? I say *should* because I am the proud recipient of a "no thanks" quick reply indicating she ...


2 Comments, 142 Views, 11 Votes ,5.04 Score
biwildwilly 67 T
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No Thank You   4/21/2008

I was checking on the love list and this couple came up that look to be interesting so i set them a wink and put them on my hot list. I was wink back and put on their hot list. I e-mail the back to let them know that i was interested in them Even if they wear on the heavy side, I did not have a problem with that. The Female was Dom and her husband was a Sub, I sent her a couple of e-mails as to ...


0 Comments, 230 Views, 9 Votes ,1.07 Score
Samegutt 50 M
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How to say no to a woman   1/1/2008

I meet this lovely and beautiful woman here on Alt.com. I am ready for sex, in all kind and ways, so was she.., but she was also ready for more; moving togheter in the same apartment etc. She want listening to me, I doesn't want a relationship. How to say "No"..!?


3 Comments, 379 Views, 8 Votes ,3.01 Score
lilmissexkitten 51 F
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In defence   10/30/2007

When I first joined Alt and every other site, I made a point of replying to each response I got even though at times it felt as if I needed a secretary. <br> I try to be clear on my wants/needs and not to lead anyone up the garden path... <br> I thought that 'thanks for your interest but you are not for me' would be appreciated instead I received responses asking ...


4 Comments, 571 Views, 37 Votes ,6.96 Score
Seraphimsphoto 50 M
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reply to Does Commonsense go out the window?   7/28/2007

I am a dom and I have a "no play" on the first date rule (no play dosen't mean no sex, just no bondage). It would seem to me that this should be an "unwritten Law" for subs. Why would anyone put themselvs at the complete mercy of a total stranger? <br> Hey, there are clowns out there and they are eating people! So, this is more advice than anything. When meeting someone new, ...


2 Comments, 71 Views, 44 Votes ,6.06 Score
Kaysler 40 M
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Male Obligations   7/1/2007

It seems the more and more I get into the lifestyle the more and more i notice that we (of the lifestyle) have a respect for one another. Top, bottom, male, female, doesn't matter limits are limits. Which is great but since i live in a small area i'm stuck looking for vanallia people to be aroung and date around with, and i think I've noticed that there is a great lack of resect it seems in ...


1 Comments, 162 Views, 5 Votes ,3.80 Score
MistressDior 55 F
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How to explain to a submissive that he is not suitable   6/28/2007

A submissive usually would not take no for an answer. He will ask and cajole and plead and say that he loves you(this is often just a trick to get you to keep him). You get annoyed bu his whining.
To test whether the guy is genuine, tell him to do something difficult for you, that would require a lot of effort from him and observe what he does.
He either does what you asked ...


2 Comments, 124 Views, 9 Votes ,5.56 Score
Pan_and_Ramsey 49 C
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When there IS no reply...   6/26/2007

I'd think it's safe to say that if you send someone a reply and you don't get one back, does this not mean they're not interested?? I've had many people get so snotty about this and show their true colrs/manners. So.. What I DONT get is that WHY do the men get so upset over not getting a reply when their profile CLEARLY states/wreaks that they're out for a*s?? Personally, if they cant ...


4 Comments, 421 Views, 23 Votes ,4.65 Score
sexie1 53 F
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leave it alone   5/21/2007

Why can't people take no for an answer. If a married person contacts me I politely reply and tell them I am not interested in married men. Please leave it at that. I don't want to hear about your miserable marriage or that your wife is not into it. I am not into it with a married man!


2 Comments, 287 Views, 13 Votes ,3.14 Score
colette77 46 F
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Why do some trolls cant take a rejection   2/28/2007

Ive noticed that most trolls can not take rejection. It makes me question..? Im always polite when someone approaches me but I can get really angry when they keep going on and on... so if this is you.. dont show women that you are desperate it is so unattractive... thank you


2 Comments, 235 Views, 14 Votes ,3.46 Score
kinkyemailbird 44 F
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I'm a bit curious   1/20/2007

hey out there I'm not sure if this is the right place for this but can anyone tell me why most men on here seem not to be able to read? now I'm not a man hater, but as my profile states I'm looking for a girl here as, don't take offense, but men are somewhat easier to find in normal everyday life. but I keep getting hounded by pictures of unatractive mens privates and it's starting to ...


13 Comments, 857 Views, 50 Votes ,5.77 Score
BritishHawk 37 F
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Should I...?   1/3/2007

My "boyfriend", Paul, is very persuasive. Only recently have I finally given into him and had sex, but before that I had to resort to all sorts of excuses to say no. Did I have a good reason? No, not at all. I didn't want to have sex, but then, I was young and didn't know much. Every time Paul suggested it, I would feel embarassed and wonder what to say. My first thought was always, "Should ...


3 Comments, 387 Views, 9 Votes ,3.21 Score
JTMRP2 54 M
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Propriety or Prudishness   12/19/2006

When it comes to male on male love....its strictly a matter of personal choice. I mean , most guys have had one or two.......a few or more Homosexual encounters in their time. (and) that is understandable. <br> However, I think a guy has to make some choices...........like- I am a regular Bi-sexual or I make a living fucking other guys -up the ass, (ect. <br> Now, ...


2 Comments, 223 Views, 6 Votes ,2.80 Score
Kelli_sJenn 43 F
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Is It Illiteracy or Just Ignorance?   12/19/2006

The thing is a lot of times, saying "No thanks" doesn't work. Men are particularly clueless. They troll. They stalk. They whine, wheedle, and lie their asses off just for the incomprehensible "flirtation" of showing you a picture of their penis as if that's all the allure someone wants in a relationship. Get some clues, boys! <br> When someone takes the time and makes the ...


2 Comments, 588 Views, 53 Votes ,6.80 Score
teachme409 36 F
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when you've found someone else....   12/19/2006

Why is it that whenever I've said "Thank-you, but I've found what I'm looking for right now" men seem to think its an invite to ask one of, or the entire series of questions... "Why does he have I don't" "What makes you think he's better than me" "Why did you lead me on" "Will you keep in touch with me in case it doesn't work out" "Will you just call me anyways"
Its pathetic. ...


1 Comments, 170 Views, 10 Votes ,3.39 Score
ANTHONYBIGT 42 M
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everyones expecting   12/19/2006

people are always sending the most crazy emails and most expect a responce. This isn't porn shop just a place to hook up. if people would lightn up and just be honest with self you'd be getting some right now.


1 Comments, 102 Views, 2 Votes ,3.81 Score
oshit01 40 M
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how do u say no   12/19/2006

when u set up a meeting with a girl and she smells like fish how do u tell her no


1 Comments, 127 Views, 2 Votes ,1.04 Score
SweetDenial 66 F
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After I was finished he said no thanks.   11/11/2006

I recently had a man write to me. This was the first e mail to me and this is how I said no in a different way and gave him a taste of his own crudeness. _____________________________________ I'm looking for a bit of help--special help. I'm thinking of having 4 guys over for a poker party but I need a bit of an edge. You could help me with this edge by assuming the role as my hostess ...


13 Comments, 1553 Views, 98 Votes ,8.00 Score
eelk694u 70 T
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flakes   9/22/2006

why are there so many dishonest deceitful guys out there? I am very explicity as to what i give and want from a guy. Im a bottom tgirl and say so, but they lie about their desires and only want a BJ. Or they are a half-and-half XDreseer and look awful with their hairy bodies and terrible clothes. Im also through replying to non-photo members. all men are the same - only their ugly faces ...


3 Comments, 473 Views, 27 Votes ,3.56 Score
johnson2252000 64 M
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never thought it would happen   8/7/2006

never thought it would happen to me. I'm not one of those pretty boys. In the last 3 months I have found 3 occasions in which I needed to say "No thanks." For one it was just there was no attraction what so ever. She kept saying it was the best I could ever get - but I have learned to have standards. The other was a lady who was in a sad state mentally. I could not bring myself to ...


1 Comments, 225 Views, 8 Votes ,2.32 Score
tex944 43 M
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Don't bend over   7/10/2006

I often had my slave complain when i give it to there in the ass, i hvae the answer just told her not ot bend over then!


2 Comments, 104 Views, 26 Votes
dynamitesneon 41 M
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I'm innept   6/3/2006

I meet people from thse sites occationally, and they're never my type. I have no good way of turning them away, so I just try and fade out of mind. Does anyone have a better way, without hurting anyones feelings? Am I doing it right?


5 Comments, 343 Views, 11 Votes ,2.05 Score
SubKrystinka 44 F
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will you be the slave for the rest of my life?NO THANKS   5/28/2006

Why people just dont understand when u refuse them and they are so angry about it.I just dont get it, or maybe i am a little bit stupid hehe


2 Comments, 227 Views, 7 Votes ,3.04 Score
Ed4T_girl 37 M
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Safety In Play   4/16/2006

Hi All, I recently went to meet up with a mistress from the uk, called SexyDomBitch. We had chatted on line for a week days and had discussed a lot fo BDSM activities we both enjoyed. During this time, She had asked me to send her 15 pictures of myself doing things she had told me she wanted to see. Throughout this she refused point blank to send me a picture of herself and told me I ...


6 Comments, 568 Views, 37 Votes ,6.54 Score
mastrwil365 77 M
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how to say no   3/25/2006

Be honest in your evaluation of the other person and if you still feel a negativity of interest be firm and say/write NO (nothing else equates with these two letters so far as communication is concerned - it is a universal acceptance of negativity).


0 Comments, 205 Views, 15 Votes ,2.67 Score
usmcrara123 52 M
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Meeting and Declining Sexual Invitations   2/15/2006

Has anyone ever met anyone off of this site and changed thier mind about having sex with them because of false information or pictures posted on the site?


4 Comments, 569 Views, 15 Votes ,3.13 Score
mooodyman 55 M
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dont get tied down.   2/11/2006

She looked so nuetral. And as i talked to her she showed no sign of what was to come . I went to her house and we drank some then she got a little goofy and asked me if she could tie my hands behind my back. i Playfiully said yes she looked so sweet and beautiful. nice and almost naive.I let her kindinly . She removed my pants and as i was naked she rubbed me off before tying it off with ...


0 Comments, 549 Views, 21 Votes ,0.28 Score
dresseuse 66 F
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The Message   1/31/2006

I have always found it to be very important to communicate in some detail as of why things will not click between a new aquaiqutance and or enquiry. Even if my mail box is flooded with virtually dozen’s of new messages with most of them being “canned†and very short to a degree of a few pointed and often degrading words. My responses have varied of course, but overall I always give a ...


1 Comments, 369 Views, 25 Votes ,4.68 Score
velvet63 57 F
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is it right to abuse someone while their hurting?   12/23/2005

well is it? u dont a friend, sit on the edge of their bed and while their asleep touch them. u dont do u? especialy when they have just been made homeless, childless, humiliated, and forced to be sub or else. by yet another nasty vile monster.


0 Comments, 213 Views, 180 Votes ,4.89 Score
velvet63 57 F
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when a sub is really a dom   12/23/2005

i recently knew a very mixed up man, howard a sub. he strangely ordered me about, yet still insisted he was sub. hed lose his temper with me, tell me im a bitch. hes well and truly gone from my life.......he tried to abuse his cleaner, what a weirdo.


0 Comments, 194 Views, 226 Votes ,0.27 Score
Iaindvc 59 M
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No thanks !!!   12/11/2005

Is it just me or do a lot of people have a problem with saying "no thanks" ? <br> I have been a member of alt now for several yaers and have written many well directed messages top people. My profile is very long and my messages are always directed at the speciffic person, couple. <br> At the end of my message I always ask that if you are not interested please just send ...


3 Comments, 384 Views, 27 Votes ,7.87 Score
blacksnoopy77 41 M
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what men want   9/20/2005

Men can stop chasing sex and say "no thanks" but if it falls in their lap...they're all over it. If a female walks to any guy she'll get sexual favors 3 out of 4 guys wether they're married or not


1 Comments, 194 Views, 13 Votes ,1.63 Score
domspankarino 65 M
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"No" doesn't = "Nasty"   9/20/2005

One of the things the Internet has added to our lives as we seek our partner, is access to a larger pool. I live in a city that has plenty of prospective partners, but how do you cut through the bs and find others with compatible interests? The Net provides safe ways, like through ALT... First, it enables me to look at a profile, hopefully with a picture, and see if what's said or unsaid ...


1 Comments, 135 Views, 3 Votes ,3.43 Score
GoddessBellissima 58 F
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Pay attention...   8/30/2005

I can't & won't speak for others. I can only voice my own opinion, for whatever it's worth. Frankly, if you answer a profile/message that the poster feels you don't meet their requirements? Don't be surprised if you get a reply that may singe your eyeballs! <br> People; male, female, top, bottom, dom/me, sub, slave, whatever, get tired of sifting thru the needy, greedy, fulfill ...


3 Comments, 365 Views, 32 Votes ,7.46 Score
needlesnpins 38 F
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Masochism without the sex   8/11/2005

I came here looking for someone to get involved in needle play with, not because it arouses me sexually, but because i like the how it feels in a "pain to know you are alive" way. I have been in the community as a voyeur for a year now, and the only thing that i have ever seen and wanted was to be pierced. I came to find a piercing artist who can maybe involve me in a show without going ...


2 Comments, 313 Views, 16 Votes ,2.25 Score
flash51167 53 M
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ID feel much better   7/26/2005

yes thats right if a person feels the message they recieved was not for them then a simple no thanks would do the trick. By saying no in a responceyou let the other member know that the site is not full of people who just want to show photos of them selves so to all those who respond NO THANKS THANK YOU FLASH51167


0 Comments, 72 Views, 9 Votes ,4.07 Score
xperenceisbest 59 C
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White or Wong?   7/2/2005

My sub and I have been together for 30 plus years as husband and wide as well as Dom/sub. I am a psychologist and from the moment I met her I realised she was a closet Bisexual. So I encouraged her to make love with other women, although I liked to be present. She has had some terrific lovers; some subs as well, which has made things especially good from my point of view. But the most ...


0 Comments, 348 Views, 17 Votes ,1.29 Score
leggyredhead 66 F
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Please Read Profile Before Sending An Email   5/11/2005

I have recieved emails from individuals who have in all likelihood not taken the time to read my profile. If they had they wouldn't have put forth the effort to send me an email as my location and what I am seeking here differs from their own. I typically don't respond to these emails, not out of a lack of common courtesy but because it's clear that they either didn't read my profile, or ...


5 Comments, 96 Views, 37 Votes ,5.95 Score
Horny4_u_2 63 M
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saying not interested   5/11/2005

even if you email someone or they email you, it would be polite in just saying no thanks or not my type, I have found that people have a tendency to get really rude if you don't respond either way. so I make it a point to reply whether to say no thanks or not my type, just my viewpoint


4 Comments, 93 Views, 20 Votes ,3.51 Score
subseeker1941 82 M
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Revealing   5/11/2005

A friendly and polite response to a profile should merit a "No thanks" if the person doesn't match one's preferences. If not it would not only be a lack of "kinderstube": it is surprising how many people don't realize ho much they are revealing about themselves by not extending this basic courtesy. Not getting any reply at all after some time is an answer in itself - and I for one accept ...


2 Comments, 125 Views, 15 Votes ,4.36 Score
Subtle_Cruelty 59 M
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Say no thanks and then......   4/30/2005

Say no thanks and then block the user. That way you don't have to listen to the whiners. <br> Still looking for my slave.


0 Comments, 117 Views, 16 Votes ,4.16 Score
QueenBee4real 51 F
6 Articles
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UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR & THIS APPROACH IS COMPLETELY WRONG, WRONG, WRONG…   4/20/2005

Most of the time a man is attracted to a woman's face, her figure and then maybe her personality after. He then wonders how her body would look without her clothes. That is when his imagination starts to take over him completely. He can not stop wondering what sex would be like with her. Then he starts to create fantasies about having a sexual encounter with her and he would do just about ...


1 Comments, 94 Views, 7 Votes ,5.59 Score
BrendaB 65 T
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Me ?   4/16/2005

Usually I get a lot of inappropriate sexual offers because I look so pretty. Some gays think I'm a boy HO and try to buy me what a mistake they want a man and would run a soon as they saw my tits! Not that wouldn't like it I'm just not who they were thinking I was. Then some teens try to pick-up on me usually girls who are attracted by my looks and are under legal age not exactly who I ...


0 Comments, 233 Views, 15 Votes ,0.07 Score
fixerheiman 73 C
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ha,ha,ha   3/31/2005

how do you get a gay guy to fuck a woman?shit in her cunt.


1 Comments, 177 Views, 43 Votes
needfemdom3 62 M
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A kinder way to reject a prospect   3/19/2005

My experience with the Alt IM and Chatrooms has left me with a somewhat bitter taste for the manner in which disinterest is shown. <br> I would suggest that Alt managment devise a more subte and less semantic manner in which to indicate a lack of interest in either an IM or private chat arrangement. <br> Could we not utilize, "Sorry, but [this person] is not presently ...


3 Comments, 245 Views, 25 Votes ,3.57 Score
S_she_S 54 F
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Reply to Hurting Feelings   1/29/2005

I too have seen much of this. When sent an e-mail no matter if I am interested or not, I write back cordially thanking them but respectfully declining. Why is it then these socalled "Dominants" come back with acidy remarks and hissing insults? One word: Immaturity. They've never truly grown up. Either within the lifestyle or outside of it. Same can be said for women however. ...


1 Comments, 84 Views, 36 Votes ,8.07 Score
bibrianma 47 M
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how to get out without being rude.   1/15/2005

i recentley met this guy online and before we met he seemed really cool. he looked attractive to me and he was well hung and said he was a total top wich i really like. but when i got to his place he was totally not what he said he was then i was really dissapointed, but i didnt really know what to say. i ended up leaving without doing anything with him but he said that i was a tease and ...


2 Comments, 410 Views, 18 Votes ,4.49 Score
soggypantscan 42 M
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Cougars   1/11/2005

I don't know about you, but I have trouble with Cougars. They are constantly prowling around me, its not that I'm overly against fooling around with older women, its when they say "you know I have a your age" that doesn't do it for me. <br> Why is it the Cougars are far more forward then the rest?


6 Comments, 226 Views, 16 Votes ,2.10 Score
dayzlight 66 F
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How lovely we are not meant for each other   1/6/2005

WEll well well, of late i have had some pleasant experiences with saying no thanks. In a couple of letters i responded with...'i think You got the wrong idea about what i am looking for, but thanks for writing' or ' i am afraid that that is really not something i am interested in' or even 'now i know all about You, You have not even said why You wrote me, i do not think there is any hope ...


0 Comments, 132 Views, 17 Votes ,5.11 Score
NewestFlavor 63 F
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Sometimes it's just not worth it!   12/28/2004

I used to take the time to say no politely and it usualy ends up in the other person getting hostile over being rejected. If someone is across the country or IN another country I don't see the point of answering. It's silly to me and I don't have the time to be honest. Don't take it personally! Just my 2 cents..


1 Comments, 145 Views, 32 Votes ,3.52 Score
sweetdarkluv 63 M
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Time to be polite.   12/23/2004

I believe that any well mannered person has the time to be polite. Of course standard members are restricted to the number of emails they can answer. I understand that. Anyone who writes me gets a reply even if it is no thank you. I appreciate that people here are reaching out to people they feel may be kindred spirits. Take heart my fellow rejectees. Somebody's looking for somebody like ...


2 Comments, 94 Views, 30 Votes ,6.18 Score
Music_ata 52 M
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WHy do people "phish"   12/21/2004

Why is it that people will send a "email" with a different addy to respond back to. And then have links to "paid" sites in order to reply. At other sites.? To me it gets old. Am I the Lone Ranger or what?


1 Comments, 102 Views, 9 Votes ,3.64 Score
QueenBee4real 51 F
6 Articles
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UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR & THIS APPROACH IS COMPLETELY WRONG, WRONG, WRONG…   12/20/2004

Most of the time a man is attracted to a woman's face, her figure and then maybe her personality after. He then wonders how her body would look without her clothes. That is when his imagination starts to take over him completely. He can not stop wondering what sex would be like with her. Then he starts to create fantasies about having a sexual encounter with her and he would do just about ...


1 Comments, 135 Views, 20 Votes ,6.44 Score
Iluvcartoons 45 M
2 Articles
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One of the obstacles I've run into with my own bi-curiosity...   12/18/2004

I used to get whipped every now and then by a master (who will remain nameless here), he knew I was bi-curious, but he also knew that the mutual agreement between US was he was master and he whipped me. Before we did anything, we discussed a bit about what was acceptable between us. I already have a mistress and I'm HER slave, and every now and then she liked to send me to him for a proper ...


1 Comments, 171 Views, 14 Votes ,4.90 Score
helplesshussy 45 F
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Submission brings a great deal of problems with being assertive   12/13/2004

I am a new submissive femme and getting more than my fair share of responses. the trouble is that i am happy to messege the Doms and i am not wasting time, i really do want to meet up with some of them, but some of them try to really pressurise me into a meeting the first time we talk and i find it very difficult to say no. Sometimes they want things that i am not ready for and sometimes ...


1 Comments, 83 Views, 16 Votes ,6.21 Score
sugar1967 56 F
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how could you?   12/2/2004

this one would like to take a moment or two to speak her feelings on the word No and what it means girl was always taught that no matter your relation no matter your situation one always has the right to say No or has a safe word then when used is supposed to stop the present activity from happening but it seems to this girl that sometimes ...


1 Comments, 97 Views, 17 Votes ,2.70 Score
leggyredhead 66 F
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Responding to e-mails   11/19/2004

I have seen frequent postings on alt about people who don't answer e-mail. I myself have a system. In my profile I clearly state that I won't relocate, want nothing to do with attached partners and am not into sadists. Despite this I get e-mail from these individuals which I typically don't answer. Nor should I be expected to, if the individual sending it has read my profile then they know ...


1 Comments, 91 Views, 20 Votes ,6.70 Score
Hiddin2 83 M
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You'd have to be crazy.   10/21/2004

How many times has a hot woman in a tight red dress approached you, brushed her blond bangs out of her blue eyes, curled her pouty lips up and asked you: do you come here often? Do you want to? <br> Now if this were to happen... would you turn her down? We all know that if you are a man, and you know that this blonde is not a man.... the answer is Huh NOOOO> <br> ...


0 Comments, 73 Views, 9 Votes ,0.86 Score